It’s hard to keep things fresh. Case in point: Some people have a natural inclination for adventure and constantly try new things in life. However, for most of us, we tend to settle into certain habits and routines. Unfortuantely, with life the way it is right now, things are different and romance is suffering. So, here are some ways to reignite that romantic spark and help break the quarantine blues in your relationship!
Beyond plain old boredom, this can make the things — and even the people — we love start to seem mundane and ordinary. Nowhere is this more treacherous than in relationships. From time to time, we all can become personally unfulfilled for a variety of external reasons, but that emotion and weight tend to carry over to your partner. The deep, strong feelings you have for them lose a little intensity and you take that as a sign that something is wrong.
The biggest key is to recognize what is happening. You aren’t falling out of love; you're just complacent and unsatisfied because everything has grown stagnant. The solution: Don’t break up — and instead break things up!
You probably just need some small changes. That alone will reset your perspective and allow you to see just how great of a thing you really do have. How do you do it? Well, there are many ways, but the following three usually do the trick for most people.
Recover the Fun Of Date Night
It used to be easy. There were go-to's such as Dinner. Movies, Drinks, Shows, rinse, and repeat. These activities are probably what you did together at the beginning of your relationship when everything was so magical and it stayed that way until quarantine. Unfortunately today those go-to date night ideas just aren't possible. However, that doesn't mean you can't still experience the fun and thrill of spending time together doing something special. Instead of going out, maybe consider surprising your wife with a picnic in a secluded park (where allowed) or even a surprise dinner outside on the patio or balcony if you live in an apartment. The key here is to break the routine of being "stuck at home" and show your partner that you truly love her. Be creative here - only you know what will work with your partner and current situation.
Fix Bedroom Boredom With Help Through the Mail
Over time, it’s almost inevitable. The physical chemistry and excitement in the bedroom start to fade. Familiarity and routine take over, and one of the best parts of life can begin to feel almost clinical. It seems like this should be impossible, but it’s one of the biggest causes of stagnation — and it won’t go away unless you do something about it.
The good news is that you can break out of this funk; you just need to get creative and explore. While a weekend getaway might not be possible right now, it's time to look to deliveries to spice stuff up. Try something easy like a fun lingerie set to change things up and break up the complacency, or if you are more advanced in your relationship even ordering an adult game, lube, or toys to make things a bit more exciting. When done right — and with some frequency — you really can rediscover that loving feeling.
Communication Complacency
It’s a cliché, but open and honest communication is the key to a healthy relationship. But even this can go through periods of becoming routine. This is especially true during quarantine where we see the same people over and over and over again - familiarity is the enemy of romance so make sure to talk things out or even start new conversations just for the sake of talking about something new. Equally important is making sure that you don't avoid resolving conflicts. Maybe you've talked something to death in the past and simply don’t want to go over it again, so you ignore it. Or, perhaps there is a behavior or tendency of your partner that you have just learned to deal with rather than discuss and critique.
The “problems” might not even be that big! That makes it feel even sillier, but small annoyances can lead to large resentments. In these cases, you need to talk it out. Break up your communication patterns and have a sit-down where you both raise some issues that have been bothering you. Most couples only deal with things when they come up, and this is a perfect opportunity for a reasoned talk that isn’t clouded by the heightened emotions of an in-the-moment flare-up.
Rediscovering that Loving Feeling Through New Experiences
By stepping outside your comfort zone — and doing so together — you'll start to climb out of your rut. And the best part is that it doesn’t have to be some dramatic life makeover transformation. For instance, try cooking something new, build something together, or even learn a new dance. By exploring a new experience together, not only will you be stronger now ... but this is something that you can continue together down the road as well.
If you actively introduce some variety, you will soon see the benefits. Even the common activities you have been doing together for years will begin to seem more exciting and fun again. Just like that, you will break away from stagnation and gain a newfound appreciation for the best relationship of your life.
